So, I would have to say, the most ambitious DIY project I had to take on has always been myself! First, if a person isn’t striving to make themselves the best version of themselves every day, that in itself is a setback! Plus, I have had to start over from the ground floor, a few times, due to surviving SO much domestic abuse!
I’m sure most of you don’t know (and I’m personally glad and relieved), starting over from domestic abuse causes you to have to lose being an overly proud person. You have to embrace basic humility and humble yourself to start over. You possibly have to start another job and move residences, possibly downsize possessions (if they hadn’t already been taken away or broken), and get new schedules for you and your family. Fighting it only makes things worse and harder, so adopting a “fresh start” attitude is your best play.
I had to fight to learn to do things on my own (I mean, I did already in my abusive marriage). However, I had an Ex throwing up obstacles, lies, and discontent in my way. Everyone doubted me, but I had to hold my head up high and keep going. I had to take the high road and not engage in the “he said, she said” crap, because that blurred my vision. He was always the “golden boy” of public opinion. My truth and demeanor never waivered, despite my internal self-doubt that constantly argued inside my head. Those who knew me best and loved me, knew the true me anyway. I intentionally and purposely made my circle small and exclusive.
I educate myself constantly, pushing myself. I take online classes and seminars. I read everything I get my hands on. I self-journal through blogging. I sign up for crazy 5K’s and physical challenges. I push my body and mind: not only for my health, but for my sanity. I play with Rubik’s puzzles like crazy. I have a TBI, so I have to keep my mind elastic and active. I am aging and I want my mind to be as sharp as it can. I learn to thwart ignorance.
I’ve had to rebuild from health issues. I’m currently in the middle of that NOW. I’ve gained weight back due to my health setbacks, so my end game/goal is to feel better and become healthier — and looking better will follow! I want to be healthy for the rest of my life and live as long as I can for myself and my loved ones. There is SO much more great stuff to come in the future!
Starting over, at ground-floor level in pay, with a company or industry means you have to pay your dues, work hard, and invest the time. I’m nearly 5 years at my government job and the pay gets better all of the time. Plus, I know all of my duties and can do them without assistance, which helps with confidence. Starting over and being at a “lesser” level always give me anxiety, so doing this has worked wonders too for my ego. God has humbled me, then blessed me twice! I am also less than two years from completing my bankruptcy obligations of five years! I’m in the homestretch now!!!
I have been, and always will be, my most ambitious DIY project. Because I am worth the time and effort to care for and evolve myself!