Cut It Out Certified

I am now certified and on the Professional Beauty Association at a certified trainer of Beauty Salon owners and employees to recognize DV, as well as assist the victim. I am beyond pleased that I can offer this service! Solving DV starts seeking out where it hides: behind closed doors. Hair stylists and beauty consultantsContinue reading “Cut It Out Certified”

Spectrum of Success, Part 2

I didn’t want my post about my son from the other day to sound like getting things turned around (after being in 23+ years of abuse and being out of abuse for over four and a half years), was easy. It definitely wasn’t and I’m STILL working on it. My youngest is four years awayContinue reading “Spectrum of Success, Part 2”

Spectrum of Success

I need to brag for a moment on this young man…he survived abuse right along with me and is now doing awesome! He’s almost done with junior high school, which has been rocky, let me tell you…now, he’s just joined Planet Fitness’ summer program, signed up to start community college which will go right alongContinue reading “Spectrum of Success”

Settling Down the Trauma

I am wanting to get back into therapy. I’ve been through over 23 years of abuse, so I know the year of therapy I’ve been to isn’t going to heal me. It’s definitely helped, but I’m not done… I had to stop because my therapist was a man…he didn’t do anything inappropriate, so please don’tContinue reading “Settling Down the Trauma”

Guilt Gifting

***TRIGGER WARNING!*** References to past abuse present in this posting! <3 What is “guilt gifting,” you might be asking yourself? Guilt gifting is when someone gives you a gift, specifically because of the direct result of how they feel about what they did to you or how they treated you. Narcissists do this ALL theContinue reading “Guilt Gifting”

I am a Beautiful Disaster

I used to describe myself as more of a “hot mess”…at least, until recently… I discovered the Beautiful Disaster website a few years ago and was instantly impressed with the founders and their stories of survival. I also thought the merchandise was unusual and intriguing. The first sale I saw with a “mystery” selection forContinue reading “I am a Beautiful Disaster”

I’m So Broke, My Mental Breakdown is on Layaway…

I’m completely sick of living paycheck to paycheck. I have been on financial survival mode since I’ve been an adult. Prior to meeting and marrying my abuser, I had money and saved money. Now, I have squatters that live with me, I mean tenants, I mean children…whatever, you get my meaning! I must love them,Continue reading “I’m So Broke, My Mental Breakdown is on Layaway…”